Everybody had a version of that toy as toddlers. You know, that board with various shapes cut into it, and the matching blocks that fit them. As a child, you try to force the wrong shapes into the wrong holes, relentlessly. As adults, we find ourselves playing that very same game, just on a broader scale. The board is our lives, and the blocks are the people we surround ourselves with. Be it friends or significant others, we are constantly looking for those perfect fits.
We were too young to remember struggling for hours on end, but we sure did. Constantly trying to push that square block through the round hole. It seemed logical to us at the time. They were almost the same shape, except for those damned corners! I somewhat recall thinking to myself, if I can just push a little harder, or at a different angle, it will fit. Now as a grownup, you find yourself doing the same things, but the holes in our hearts are far more complex. You fall for some person that seems absolutely perfect… well, almost. If you can just round off a few of the edges, they just might fill that hole in your life for the most part. But in time, we see the gaps widen, and it becomes obvious that this is not the one.
But isn’t it the most beautiful look on a child’s face when they discover the right piece that fits in the right place? You can almost see the little epiphany that they have, where they think, “Of course! This fits perfectly!” It always seems obvious to us, because we learned long ago what pieces went where. But this is also the same feeling when we find that one person that fits our lives seamlessly. You think to yourself, “This is the person I’ve been looking for my whole life. How did I ever survive without them?” It is only then that you can look back and recognize that you were forcing all the wrong people into this person’s role, and it all makes sense.
So how do we find that puzzle piece that perfectly complements us? As you well know, there is no clearcut answer. All we can do is play the game the way we were taught at that very young age. Pay attention to the pieces you put into the board. Examine and analyze them thoroughly before attempting to fit them in that space. The more critical you are of each piece, and more selective you are with those attempts, the less those corners will get rounded, making that one true piece fit effortlessly. But be patient, for I know that once I find my perfect complement that fits me completely… it will be Heaven.