I Hope You Dance

From the minute I decided I wanted to propose to Claire, I knew we were going to have the conversation. My diehard Dancing with the Stars fan-future wife was going to want to dance with me at our wedding, and I knew I was going to break her heart with my refusal. Anyone I’ve known…

The Salvinis Love Here

It’s said that a picture is worth a thousand words. As gorgeous as our wedding photos turned out, a thousand of them will never touch the way it felt to sit up at the wedding altar and look out on a sea of familiar faces when the background music began to fade. What’s crazy is…

I have a secret…

It’s been nearly 3 years since those four words made the hair on the back of my neck stand up. “You know…If you weren’t my boss, I’d kind of want to date you.” We’d bonded over long existential talks and reading psychological texts while I was stuck in bed battling a pressure sore for an…

Love Will Find a Way

If you haven’t figured out by now, I’m a big quote guy. One of my absolute favorites is attributed to Theodore Parker that says, “The arc of the moral universe is long but it bends toward justice.” I got the tattoo below of song lyrics in my handwriting a couple years ago that, I think, along with Parker’s century-old words, really…

In Sickness and in Health

I knew today was coming. I’d probably looked at it on the calendar a half a dozen times, but somehow in the overall randomness of the day, I let it slip. My third wedding anniversary. It really is hard to wrap my head around the fact that, in November, Kristen will have been gone for three…

When you sleep just to dream…

It was one of those mornings where you wake up heartbroken.  It was only a dream?  But it seemed so real!  Every image so clear.  Every smell distinct.  Every feeling so intense.  You try to will yourself back to sleep and continue dreaming, because you know it has worked on a few occasions.  You just…

Square blocks, round holes

Everybody had a version of that toy as toddlers.  You know, that board with various shapes cut into it, and the matching blocks that fit them.  As a child, you try to force the wrong shapes into the wrong holes, relentlessly.  As adults, we find ourselves playing that very same game, just on a broader…